Monday, December 31, 2007
- Healing from that anxiety. (I may write about it another time.)
- Wedding plans.
- Hospital visits
- Lots of Surgeries
- Canceled wedding plans
- Elopement. And a beautiful wedding!
- A wedding celebration
- Another engagement
- A trip to Hawaii
- Job hunting
- Possible homelessness
- Inner-City Ministry
- An exciting step of faith into the direction we feel that God is moving us.
Enjoy this new year's eve. Ben and I will be taking it easy, staying in and relaxing.
Saturday, December 29, 2007
115,000 Miles (mostly highway)
Power windows, locks, mirror
Remote Keyless entry
100,000 mile maintenance performed
New tires (2 months old)
Regular maintenance kept up
Interior and exterior are in great shape!
All for the low price of $7,500!
Check it out:
If you know anyone who is interested they can contact me at andicandi (at) gmail (dot) com.
Friday, December 28, 2007
The whirlwind that is my life is still going strong. This weekend was packed so ridiculously full that I am still tired.
On Saturday we had the big ol' Christmas get together for my dad's side of the family. Ben and I showed up and hour and half late because I can't read. Every year since I was like 2, all of our dinners started at 1 pm. This year Christmas started at 11 am. I got a postcard stating that, but I threw it out without reading it because "it's the same as last year." And even though it was my fault we were late, I still accused Ben of not speeding because he didn't want to spend time with my family. I am just a joy to be married to.
Sunday was my family's Christmas celebration. Ben wouldn't let me throw out the 5 empty wrapping paper tubes because "those are way too much fun, we'll take them to your parents." So we took them and Ben put them in everyone's stocking with "love, Ben" written on them. And sure enough, we had tons of fun beating each other.
Monday we drove North to spend time with Ben's Dad's side of the family. We crammed 11 people into his grandparents house. Ben and I got to share a full-sized bed which is not at all like a queen. At one point I woke Ben up and threatened that if he took the covers one more time he would be sleeping on the cold floor. On Christmas day we played a rousing game of Taboo where one clue was "ladies undergarments. Cheese." Yes. The word was G-String. No. The guys did not guess that one.
I hope you had wonderful Christmas with lots of snoring relatives, inappropriate word games, fun presents and too much food.
P.S. We move in 22 days! AHHHH!
Thursday, December 20, 2007
Our lives have pretty much consisted of AHHHHAHHHAHHAAAHHHHH as we try and get everything done. So to sum up I present you with a list! A Christmas list of all of our craziness.
1. We have started giving awards to certain types of Christmas cards we get this year. So far we have determined winners for the most boring Christmas letter, the most naked baby photo, the smallest, the funniest, the longest letter, and the Christmas Cleavage Award. Yes. We got a photo that was way too little faces and way too much boob. And in all honestly, it's disturbing to see your mom like that.
2. We've found a place to live in Kentucky which means that I can cross of my To Do list, "Not be homeless", which I think is a major accomplishment. We looked at some pretty junky places before we found a beautiful little duplex (with washer and dryer hook-ups!). One place we looked at was a 100 year old house that was in desperate need of an overhaul. It was at that house that Ben and I realized (again) how different we are. Ben decided that we couldn't rent the place because of the moldy ceilings, the broken windows and $200 a month heating bill. I decided we couldn't rent that place because I couldn't live the floral wallpaper that was everywhere! It was tacky and it clashed with our beautiful new couch.
3. I still hate wal-mart. Enough said.
4. I had a job interview this week down in Kentucky. It went really well, except for the part of the interview where I took a test. That involved long division. Do you know how long it's been since I have done long division by hand? Anyone care to hazard a guess? Since Jr. High. If this job requires long division by hand I can't do it. I just circled some answer for that part of the test and moved on.
5. I love me some Christmas time!
6. Doesn't it seem like this list should have 10 items in?
7. Unfortunately, it's my bedtime and 7 is all we will have time for tonight. Goodnight!
Thursday, December 06, 2007
I love me some snow. I wish I could go sledding, but alas it's all supposed to melt before I am done with all my grown-up things like paying bills and looking for a job so we can continue to pay for said bills. Boo.
Back to the hairy legs... I should have shaved them because today I had a job interview. One in which I wear a suit. The only suit I own. With a skirt. But, I am an idiot and completely forgot that I had an interview today with a recruiter. While getting dressed for work I contemplated dressing up and then decided that it was too cold for polyester and wore jeans instead. My job is cool (warm?) like that and while jeans are acceptable at my job they are less acceptable at an interview. So between dropping Ben off at work and getting to my job, my heart stopped when I realized that today was Thursday. Thursday! The day that I have that thing with the people. The people who might find me a job in that place where I am moving! The people who I must convince that I am competent enough to handle enough responsibility that they would give me a paycheck big enough to pay the bills. Do you see? I am not picky. I just want a job that is enough. A job that I am enough for and that they pay me enough. All I want is enough. Could you find a more easy-to-please person? I think not. Well maybe you could. I actually want a job that pays enough but also has enough vacation, and I am thinking something around 3 weeks is enough.
Anyway....I am getting sidetracked today!... I forgot about the interview and the on-line application I was supposed to fill out two days ago. Thankfully I had nothing on my calendar today and could just blow off work to prepare for something I was supposed to do last night... This apparently is why I need a lot of vacation time.
So I stopped by work to tell them I won't be there because, yes, I also left my cell phone at home. Today was my day, placed in a paper bag, set on my porch and lit on fire. That was how today was delivered to me. Really the rest of today was uneventful. I was able to fill out the application, press my dress shirt and make it to the interview in plenty of time. I got to wear my suit that smelled of college-student presentation sweat and closet funk. I am thinking a trip to the dry cleaners is in order... Also, I had leg hair sticking out of my panty hose but I figured if any recruiter was looking that closely at my legs I would end up slapping him and there goes the job anyway. So why not add some more layers of warmth?
The only other fun part about the job interview was walking from the parking lot, across Main St into the building. Apparently, the downtown sidewalk and parking lot patrol consider salting these surfaces optional; they were one large sheet of ice. I had to slowly scoot my dress shoes across them and pray that I didn't fall in such a way to get arrested for indecent exposure or rip my panty hose and have my leg hairs take over the interview. Fortunately I have a cat-like balance and made it inside just fine. Then it only took one person to explain that suite 1380 is not on the 1st floor, but on the 13th floor.
I hope I get a job for all of this trouble, preferably one that is on the first floor.
Sunday, December 02, 2007
I was happy that I avoided wedding dress shopping for my wedding. I didn't need that stress at all! My sister, however, doesn't stress over things like I do. I think she had fun with it. She came out twirling around and striking poses. She endured her friends having her try on some very hideous dresses; dresses that no one would look good in. She also tried on some absolutely gorgeous dresses!
She found a dress on the clearance rack and took it home that day. It is the prettiest wedding dress I have seen, second only to my dress. Finding her dress caused her to switch her wedding colors and bridesmaid dresses. She's putting me in something like this:
It's the socks that really make it. If I look unhappy it's because I am plotting how to get back at my sister and get away with it. Actually, she picked a much more flattering dress and I think she's going to have a beautiful wedding!
Thursday, November 29, 2007
6 months: Learned to walk. I can only walk while holding onto this gross-looking, frog thing. If I drop it, I will fall down.
Already my sense of fashion is behind everyone else. It will take me until college to catch up.
3 years: I astound my mom by finding Peppy Taco in the midst of a chest full of toys. For the rest of my life I will know where Peppy Taco is.
6 years: I open crayons as my stocking stuffer gift on Christmas eve. I hate them and cry. For the rest of my life I will feel bad about being so ungrateful. My parents will give me crayons every Christmas after that.
Taken from the book "No One Cares What You Had For Lunch: 100 Ideas for Your Blog" by Maggie Mason
Wednesday, November 28, 2007
I am washing my hands every time I talk to someone. I don't want strep.
We need to get the company to buy a large bottle of hand sanitizer and put it next to the community candy dish.
Let's be honest. What you really want is for people to get sprayed with a shower of Lysol when they walk into your office.
THAT WOULD BE AWESOME!
Tuesday, November 27, 2007
We'd invite all of our home school group over to make gingerbread houses out of a graham crackers. Eventually it grew to be so big we had to rent out a skating rink and hold the competition there. I think that they still do it. My mom has left a legacy!
It was a lot of fun, but I certainly wouldn't let on:
I was just too bershon for that!
Monday, November 26, 2007
2 T. butter 1 package of spinach, finely chopped 1 small red bell pepper (I used a yellow one. The grocery store was out of red. Does anyone else try and spell grocery like grochery? I do. How else do you get the "shh" sound in it? Otherwise it should be pronounced Gro Seri. And they were out of red peppers too so that doesn't help me.)
3/4 C. milk
2 T. all-purpose flour
1/2 t. salt
1/8 t. nutmeg (Does anyone have a measuring spoon that measures 1/8? I sure don't and I'm not in elementary school anymore and really shouldn't have to divide fractions. In the 5 recipes I have made, I have never seen measurement of 1/8. We hates the 1/8 around here.)
3 Eggs (Must be pretty brown eggs)
CHEESE! (I love me some cheese)
So as you can see this really isn't a vegitarian recipe so much as it is a meat-less recipe. We can work with this....
1. Heat oven to 350 F. Grease pie pan, 9 1 1/4 inches (I forgot to to do this which is why Ben is now in the kitchen scrubbing the pan... sorry sweetie!)
2. Melt margarine in 12-inch skillet over medium heat. Cook spinach and bell pepper for about 5 min until spinach is wilted and pepper is crisp-tender (the phrase crisp-tender makes no sense and yet it describes it so well.)
3. Beat remaining ingredients except cheese until smooth (or as I did, until the flour clumps and your arm gets tired); pour into skillet. Stir mixture; pour into pie pan.
Side note: Everyone needs to go buy one of these spoon rests from pampered chef. They are amazing and take up such little room!
4. Bake uncovered about 30 minutes until center is set. Sprinkle with cheese! My "pie" tried to take over the oven and quite possibly would have gone for the whole world like some spinach blob... but I beat it back and it calmed down.
Sunday, November 25, 2007
The more we are involved with this church the more we realize how unprepared we are for all of this. There is so much pain in this neighborhood that I alternate between choosing to ignore it and crying over it. When I read statistics of child abandonment, illiteracy and crime in the city I can feel pity but continue on my life. When it's my friends and the people I worship with, it hurts.
And right now all I can do is pray for them. Please pray with me.
Saturday, November 24, 2007
Friday, November 23, 2007
I celebrated the beginning of the Christmas season like every good American and went shopping. I bought a coat for myself.
Tonight Ben and I went to the Grand Illumination downtown. I enjoy going downtown for events. I am always reminded of how much I love the city. The life, the people, the pain, the joy. It's a great place to be.
We got to see the ginger bread house display while we were there. If we were staying in the area I think I would try and get some friends to join.
When we were growing up my mom would host a gingerbread house competition at our house. We would use graham crackers instead of gingerbread and a special icing my mom would make. Everyone would bring some candy to decorate. At the end the parents would judge the houses and give out awards to everyone. The awards would be something like most creative or most life-like. It was a lot of fun. Although we never made anything as elaborate as the houses we saw tonight.
Thursday, November 22, 2007
Wednesday, November 21, 2007
She said that she saw a kid, who was with the cleaning guy, throwing the bill in the trash. Thinking it was her bill she yelled at the kid and threatened to call the police if he didn't give the check back. Now here's the part that I don't understand. What was some 13 year old kid going to do with a check to the water company? Chew on it? Try and pass himself off as a representative of the company? Frame and brag about his heist? I don't really get it.
Anyway I explained what happened to the apartment complex office and they said that the guy described isn't from their cleaning company. GREAT! I feel so safe now.
This kind of thing would never happen in Kentucky. That's God's country.
Tuesday, November 20, 2007
Monday, November 19, 2007
The two bedroom duplex that looked perfect on paper looked dumpy in real-life. I mean really, carpet that is 10 years old should be replaced. Also, olive green CRACKED counter tops should go as well. Dark cabinets, open laundry rooms and weed infested lawns don't advertise well. Even at $425/month it wasn't worth it. MOVING ON!
The next rental property was a three bedroom house that was beautiful! Wood floors, colors on the walls, new carpet, friendly landlord, and a great location. It was renting for about what we pay for a one bedroom apartment in Ohio. Very tempting. But it turns out that in general the jobs in Kentucky pay less than jobs in Ohio so $625/month was out of our price range. Such a bummer!
The next place we looked at was an older two bedroom apartment on the third floor. It had a spacious floor plan, cheap utilities and a great location. The current tenants couldn't say enough about how much they liked it and the landlady. The only downside was that there was no washer and dryer hook-ups which would mean we would have to get rid of ours. The on-site laundry facility was convenient, but not as convenient as having the washer and dryer in your apartment. Although at $400/month it's our best option so far.
The last place we looked was a newer two bedroom apartment that looked like all new apartments around Ohio. It had a nice open floor plan although it was smaller than the other apartment. It did have a dishwasher, which was nice but again no washer and dryer. So for $525/month the older apartment was still the best option.
The trip was good in that we got a good idea of what to expect and what we could afford. I also got some tips on jobs. Hopefully we will have things nailed down soon.
Sunday, November 18, 2007
Saturday, November 17, 2007
Friday, November 16, 2007
A couple of days ago the temperature dropped around here. It was in the high 60's which is freaky for Ohio weather in November. It made me feel uneasy. Things weren't right. Which may explain why I woke up feeling all BLAH on Wednesday. I hated my hair, it just hung there and my clothes were all wrong and annoying and no matter how quickly I got ready for work, time marched on even faster. I left the apartment grumpy, late, and hating the day and the cold.
Then it started to snow. Just a light snow flurry, but it was the first snow of winter. And you can't stay mad in the middle of the first snow of winter. You just can't. It starts to feel like the holidays. Christmas is now just around the corner. The blanket of leaves on the ground is about to be replaced by blankets of snow. The first snow is a happy snow.
I got to work and I told the girl who I am training to replace me that it was snowing. She FREAKED OUT. She had never seen snow before. She'd never lived anywhere that had snow. She ran outside and danced around and called her mom to tell her that it was SNOWING!
The rest of us stayed inside but still rejoiced at the falling flakes. Call us crazy, but when you are raised with the snow it's a happy sight. It's creates stories and community (get snowed in somewhere and you will see...). Snow makes winter bearable and we were all happy to see it.
Thursday, November 15, 2007
Wednesday, November 14, 2007
Jayme at the end of the hall quickly yelled, "GET THE SPRAY!"
I turned around in time to see Carol sprinting down the hall spraying air disinfectant.
Now that's team work!
Tuesday, November 13, 2007
- Leaves crunching under my feet. I can't walk between the buildings at my work without stepping on at least one leaf. I look like a crazy who can't walk in a straight line, but the complete fallness of crunching a leaf is worth it.
- Walking through a city by myself. It's noisy and quiet all at the same time. There are sounds all around but none of them are directed at me, so in the midst of all of the noise there is silence. I kind of image that that's what peace sounds like.
- Snow under foot. It's unlike any other sound. It's a mix of a zipper, a crunch and a rustle. It reminds me of walks in the snow as a kid.
- The roar of people at a party. If you take a break from playing Taboo and listen, it's interesting. It's loud and yet you can distinguish individual people's voices. It's a mix of everyone and yet no one is heard alone. It's the sound of community.
- Rain. It puts me to sleep.
Monday, November 12, 2007
I enjoyed Paris but I was tired and we didn't see much. We spent most of the day trying to read a map and find food. We ate in a McDonalds for lunch. I hated my team for that, but I got over it because I was running out of money and was happy to eat something.
My team was tired of seeing the sights so we decided to play one hand of Euchre at every stop we made.
We played at Sacre-Coeur Basillica:
On the subway:
At Notre Dame:
At the base of the Eiffel Tower:
At on the top of the Eiffel Tower:
That was our head nod to being tourists in Paris. Maybe some day I'll go back and really experience the city but for now I can say that Josh and I won a game of Euchre in Paris.
Sunday, November 11, 2007
Saturday, November 10, 2007
It was a good night!
P.S. In case you hadn't seen enough pictures of Ben and I all dressed up, you can see our professional pictures from our wedding celebration here.
Friday, November 09, 2007
Thursday, November 08, 2007
It was a hard decision to sell the CRV. Neither one of us were really thrilled about trading either car down to a powder blue Olds. And yet, now that we've made that decision we are excited about it. We had figured that going into ministry probably meant that we would have less stuff and need to live more simply. There will always be people who need our things more than us and at times God may ask us to give it to them.
We try very hard to hold our possessions with an open hand. To enjoy them while we have them, but not mourn for them when they are gone. To treat them as things and not part of our worth. It's hard to do this. It's so very easy to get attached to so much stuff. Cars, furniture, clothes, random junk. It's very easy to view all of it as though it were ours and we have keep it. In reality it's God's stuff. He can do with it what he pleases. He will always provide for us. All we need to do is trust Him and be good stewards of what he gives us. The key is that a steward doesn't hoard things, he uses them for things that he thinks the owner would use them for.
So selling the car feels good. It feels like we are one step closer to where God is calling us. It's helping us take serious our commitment to live simply and without debt. We are doing it. We are making one more choice to get to where God wants us to be. And as much as I hate that old blue car, it feels so freeing to let the CRV go.
Wednesday, November 07, 2007
Do you SUBMIT your resume? (as if they were to review your resume and see if you are good enough.)
Do you POST your resume? (as if you are placing it on a virtual bulletin board for all to see.)
I'm not going to tell you which one I think it is, but if you choose Ben's definition, we aren't friends anymore.
Tuesday, November 06, 2007
Me: ummm... my eye kind of burns. I think I got something in it.
Ben: I have some saline drops if you think that might help.
(I get up and put 2 drops in my eye. I also put 17 drops on my face trying to make it in my eye.)
Me: OW! IT BURNS MORE!
Ben: What burns more?
Me: MY WHOLE EYE BURNS. BEFORE IT WAS JUST THE EDGE OF MY EYE AND NOW MY WHOLE EYE BURNS. AHHHHH!
Ben: They are just saline drops they shouldn't burn.
Me: THEY ARE SALINE DROPS OF FIRE! IT BURNS!!! AHHHHHH! I'M GOING TO FLUSH IT WITH WATER.
Ben: They've never burned my eyes before.
Me: WELL THEY ARE BURNING MINE. AHHHHH! IT'S SPREADING!
Ben: What do you mean it's spreading?
Me: AHHHHH! FIRST IT WAS THE CORNER OF MY EYE AND THEN IT WAS THE WHOLE EYE AND NOW HALF OF MY FACE IS ON FIRE.
Ben: That's weird. I wonder what it is.
Me: I HOPE I DON'T GO BLIND.....OH IT HURTS!!!
Ben.... do you want a wet wash cloth?
Me: HEY! Go try the peppers in the salad. Tell me what they taste like?
Ben: Whoa! Those are spicy!
Me: Crap! I got pepper juice in my eye. I thought that was a green pepper.
For the next 20 minutes I alternated between rationally discussing things to my face bursting into flames. There was nothing that I could Google that offered any help. Lots of places said not to get the juice in your eye, but not what to do if you did.
And in complete fairness our CSA box always claimed to include spicy peppers, but they were always sweet, so I'd just lump them all together. What a day to be wrong!
Monday, November 05, 2007
We painted paneling and I've never done that before. I got the best primer and paint I could, so hopefully it sticks.
Here are the before pictures:
And me and my Grandma:
Sunday, November 04, 2007
I went as the movie theater floor:
The winners of the costume contest were Mr. and Mrs. Monster Head:
Jen went as a witch but didn't have a nose with warts, so I'm not sure her costume counts.
Saturday, November 03, 2007
Friday, November 02, 2007
Well it's back! Woo Hoo! My stomach again has decided to revolt. It's much milder this go around but it still sucks. Also, it's less scary. It's like driving an old car. The first time it breaks down you freak out, because you just know that you are going to die right there on the side of the road. Never mind that it's in the middle of your college campus - you will die. But then you don't. The towing truck man comes and tows your car away and you live and your car lives. So the next time it breaks down you are less likely to think you are going to die, you just worry about walking the 2 miles in the snow in heels. And then the next time it dies the towing guys knows you by name and you brought a book and your all "ehh… it builds character."
That's how these stomach problems feel. I'm not thinking about dying or tumors this time. My attitude is that of an old car owner. It happens, you just have to go with it and maybe jiggling some wires will help. Freaking out will not change anything. You still have to walk those two miles in the snow. Have fun. The only problem with this go around is that anytime I mention that I don't feel well people assume I am pregnant. No one did that a year ago because I would have killed them with my eyes. This year, however, any mention of nausea is received with raised eyebrows and a polite "ohhhhh".
It's not that I hate babies and pregnant women, it's just that I would rather people think I am pregnant when I actually am pregnant. And I'm not. So it's weird and I'm not sure how to handle it.
Also, back to old cars…. Ben and I are thinking about selling one of our cars since my parents have offered to give us their old one. Now Ben has owned exactly 2 cars in his life. Both were newish. I have owned 5 cars in my life and my Miata is the only newish one I've owned. Ben has never experienced the joys of owning a car that doesn't have A/C. Or a car that you can't put the drivers side window down. Or one where you can see the road through the floor boards. Or one where the trunk latch doesn't open so you have you access the trunk by folding the seats down. These are fun, character building cars. I think just for the experience we need to own an older car, although this older car is kind of cheating. It has leather power seats, A/C, and a self-dimming rearview mirror. Also, it's a powder blue Oldsmobile 88. Not only is it an old car, but it's an old car for old people. OH YEAH! We will be pimping it out…
Maybe you could help. Which car should we get rid of? The goal is to decrease debt but still have fun.
A. 2000 Honda CRV. It has 117,000 miles on it but no major problems. We owe about $2,500 on it. The problem is that neither one of us really like this car. It's not very comfortable and Ben is too tall for it. We could sell this one for roughly $6,500
B. 2001 Mazda Miata. It has 58,000 miles on it and no problems. We owe just over $8,000 on this car. We both really like this car and have fun driving it. It's just not good in snow (but we are moving south!) and it's tiny. We could sell this car for roughly $10,500.
We know the financially wise thing would be to sell the Miata. But then we would have two cars that we don't like driving, which doesn't make me happy. What do you think? Which car would you sell?